What every wife knows, but struggles to express

 ” A wife’s sexual confidence does not begin in the bedroom, it blossoms as she is encouraged & complemented by her husband throughout the day.” ~ Rachelle Layzell

 

If you have a desire to spice up your sex life with your spouse check out the xxxchurch

Best Sex Life Now is a series of 10 online-video sessions from Dave & Ashley Willis of StrongerMarriages.org and Craig & Jeanette Gross of XXXchurch.com plus 2 bonus videos from Jon Kitna (16 year NFL player) and his wife Jennifer and Aaron & Jennifer Smith (HusbandRevolution.com & UnveiledWife.com ) This workshop was created with the goal of helping married couples have better sex and experience genuine intimacy! The workshop comes with a companion downloadable and printable workbook and free bonus downloadable book (iVow) from Dave Willis.

SUBJECTS DISCUSSED ARE:

How often should we be having sex?
How can we add spontaneity to keep sex fun?

What if one of us has physical or health restrictions?

What to do when your sex life goes wrong.

How to deal with past experiences that can affect the marriage bed.

Why won’t my spouse have sex with me?

My spouse had an affair, and though I’ve forgiven them I’m having trouble responding to them sexually. What do I do?

Pornography and Extramarital affairs.

What is and is not allowed in the bedroom? Are there biblical restrictions?

What if one of us is uncomfortable with something the other wants to do / try?

How to spice it up in the bedroom.

What about stuff like sexy lingerie, sex toys and sexting— is that OK?

http://www.x3workshops.com/sex/

You were not born with a cape!

Lets just say, it was a very bad morning. Which started last night when my daughter finally let me wiggle her tooth that needed to come out because she has another one behind it coming in. Unfortunately we didn’t stop till 9:45 PM which was way past their bedtime. (Husband not happy) The tooth is still in there. That affected everybody else at night and this morning as they were very tired. My oldest (12yrs) didn’t have clothes that were clean because he did not follow directions and put them in the washing machine over the weekend, dispite 3 reminders. Then he broke his brother’s plastic gun by sitting on it. Which resulted in a very mad brother.

 All in all, everybody got to school on time and I was very happy to know that I am not superwoman. Despite my day starting off the way it did I will not live in a state of frustration or depression.  God said, 

  

I am so thankful that I can rely on his grace and strength every day. Because if I had to go on my own, it would’ve stopped about 12 years ago.

NEVER FORGET- GOD DID NOT CREATE YOU WITH A CAPE! So stop living under the expectations of being superwoman.

  

I realized today that I need to make sure I am DAILY declaring the promises of God over myself, my children, my family and friends, my church, my city and my nation.

I just purchased the book “65 Promises from God for your child” by Mike Shreve. (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1616389605/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1432068946&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SY200_QL40&keywords=65+promises+from+god+for+your+child&dpPl=1&dpID=510LChhk6yL&ref=plSrch)

  

 I am literally trembling with excitement just reading the first few pages. It is time to start to DAILY declare the promises of God over my children. As I declare it will change my own attitude and shift my spirit to be focused on my kids are the eyes of Christ.

Here is the article I found out about his book

http://www.charismamag.com/life/relationships/16417-learn-to-claim-god-s-promises-for-your-children

Wait for the Lord

A week of heartbreaking news for many loved ones makes this verse Ring in my soul. God is our hope, our sure foundation. When we are seated in heavenly places with the King of Kings our focus in life must be from God’s perspective down. When we see life through His eyes- THERE IS HOPE. Let the Prince of Peace fill you with His Comfort, Hope and Joy today!

There is a massive firey Title-Wave Coming

A massive title wave is coming, one like I have never seen before. I have seen it building up along the Pacific coast not a typical Tsunami wave but a wave that is twisting and churning and almost like a volcano bright shooting up and spouting off this liquid-fire-water. This wave got bigger and bigger thousands of feet tall, and brighter and brighter and turned and twirled around and spit out bursts of fire-water. It got bigger and bigger and bigger on the coast and then begin to spread starting along the Pacific coast line and across the whole United States. 

As it spread it began to not obliterate what it touched but went inside of every home and every church purifying with water-fire the hearts of those in it. After it’s settled, there was like a ring of fire outlining the United States. With pockets of burning places throughout the country.

Those who refused the purifying left the house and the church. The feeling while looking at this huge Tsunami wave before it crashed on the shore was not a feeling of fear but only curiosity and anticipation. There is no fear in love. The purifying fire of a holy God is 100% love. He does not do it out of hatred but out of love. The character of God never changes. Love is of God and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God, he who does not know God does not know love for God is love. 
 
As our ears begin to hear prophetic words by great men and women of God, it is  

essentially important that our hearts understand the love of God even when that love is bringing refinement. To some it will seem like a purifying to another who are not filled with the love of God, they will see it as hatred and prejudice. 

I cannot tell what the physical aspects of this wave will look like or be. I only know it is going to cause a great purifying of the body of Christ. I have no fear just excitement.
 
God Purify Our Hearts
 
Im NOT AFRAID- SHOW ME YOUR GORY
 
 

I DECLARE LIFE IN JESUS NAME!! Receive it

I am declaring a word of LIFE!! HEALING!! WHOLENESS over friends and loved ones tonight. Many friends whose lives are teetering on the edge right now. Friends who’ve had devastating diagnosis given to them by doctors for themselves or their loved ones. Declaring peace love and joy and strength to every family who is struggling watching the loved ones fight the good fight. The stripes of Jesus took on his back at Calvary and the powerful blood that He shed was not only for ourselves salvation but also for healing. Declaring salvation, revelation to your loved ones who do not know the Lord. Declaring a Saul of Tarsus encounter for each one of them. My God is a God of love, and healing even when we do not see the manifestation of that healing it will not change my belief in who God is. Papa God pour out your love peace and healing on everyone who reads this and needs it. I ask Holy Spirit to flood every room, every hospital room where there are those who need a touch. I come against the spirit of death and destruction, the spirit of cancer, and every disease that is taking hold of the lives of those who we know. Jesus took from Satan the keys and gave them back to us as his sons and daughters. We take those keys of death and destruction and declare life Over our loved ones. Thank you Jesus that when we don’t understand that you do not change your mind. It is ALWAYS your will to heal. You are not an abusive father who keeps people bound out of punishment. I break the lie that it is not God’s will to heal. We release the truth that says when two or three are gathered together and ask in faith and not doubting God will heal. And when those who we pray for pass away without receiving your healing we know that no matter what your love never fails us. We ask you to release peace into every situation, understanding and comfort to all those whose families have lost. The enemy comes to kill, steal, and destroy but Jesus has come to give life and life more abundantly. RECEIVE HIS LIFE today. My God does not change.

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The Reason I Live and Breathe

Lately there has been a heightened level of talk about the coming back of Jesus. Especially if you listen to the teachings on what is happening in the signs in the heavens, and the blood moons.

I know HE is coming back and I also know that no man or woman knows the day or the hour. I have no doubt, however, that the season is getting closer. People are talking about economic collapse, World War III, especially with all the intensity that is happening in the Middle East. I know that I will be praying on March 3, as prime minister Benjamin Netanyahu addresses the United States Congress on what is happening in Iran and how it is affecting Israel. Christians in America need to stand in the gap for our nation on that day, that the hearts of our leaders would turn towards God and also towards Israel. The nation who supports and blesses Israel will be blessed.

With thoughts of the return of Jesus, my first instinct is to make sure I am living a life of purity and righteousness before God, that is my personal responsibility. I want to live this life in honor and respect with my husband, walking hand in hand with him in peace as we “press in to the High calling in Christ Jesus”. Next it is my responsibility to train and teach my children to walk closely with God, not just head knowledge but heart knowledge that causes them to have a personal relationship with their Savior. I want to live a life that is an example of Jesus to others, my neighbors, my friends and people I meet.

The world is hungry for what Jesus has, many do not know what that hunger is or where to find it. This is our chance to give them a piece of the puzzle that they have been missing their whole life. Why would I hold back their completion?

My mandate, in the season, is to do all that I can to equip families in our church and wherever around the world God sends my family and I. To give them the tools they need to build strong relationships with their spouse and raise a mighty women and men of God.
If couples do not know how to handle conflicts in their relationship before the tribulation, how in the world are they going to withstand when things get really tough.

Think about families in the Middle East who are having their love ones slaughtered by ISIS, I bet they are not fighting over who left the milk out and who spent the last of the grocery money. This is where it gets real people. We need to know how to communicate with each other, how to have self-control in our thoughts and actions. How to make good decisions. How to honor our spouse and leaders even when we don’t agree 100% percent. Honor is not about agreement it is about respecting a person because of who they are as a son and daughter of God. This list could go on and on which shows the necessity of my mandate.

Our children need us to hold it together and thrive because they are going to carry the torch in their generation. I want them to be prepared to be the army of God who will stand righteous and victorious.
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Declaration over Marriages!!

Praying for marriages today! Declaring PEACE in communications, CLARITY in vision, UNITY in hearts and GRACE to override anything the enemy tries to slip in the cracks. No weapon formed against your marriage will prosper. You are a gift to each other. I am declaring the Love of God to wash over you and strengthen every fiber of your union!! We are in this together!! Declaring all assignments from the enemy to bring agitation and strife to leave now. Holy Spirit release your love grace and peace and bring every couple into a unity like they have ever known. AMEN!!

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Danny Silk is the Family Pastor at Bethel Church in Redding, CA. His series Keeping Your Love on has revolutionized our lives.

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Wives, You Are Your Husbands Greatest Gift

The picture attached displays how most husbands view their wives at the end of her busy day. Despite the 10 loads of laundry, 2 loads of dishes, sweeping and picking up, being the worlds fastest taxi mom to 2 or 3 different schools, running a business from home, working full/part time or taking care of an infant at home – YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DESERVE A BREAK! Some fake a headache or others hardly acknowledge their husband until the last quick goodnight kiss, after all the kids have been tucked in bed. So is the life of today’s busy housewife/mother.

The every day tasks may be daunting and you may feel as though you never accomplish everything in one day, but did you know your husband is craving your attention. He want to feel as though you are just as in love with him as the first months you were together. He himself has most likely had a very stressful day, all be it, in a different way. But he needs a wife. Not just someone who cooks and cleans but a friend. Not to only feel like a sounding board for all the problems of your day, fights the kids had and how much your body hurts. He. Needs . A . Friend. A friend who listens to him, but most of all a wife who wants to spend time in his arms even under the covers.

As a wife and mother of 3 who also runs a business from my home, I understand the overwhelming feelings that come with this. I need to make sure make sure every day that I take time to focus on my husband, have compassion for him and his day, while at the same time, ready to turn up the heat and light the candles in the bedroom. We may think we look and feel a used up dish towel, but in our husbands eyes we are the hot little mama he fell in love with. The difference is our mindset and desire to be with him as he wants to be with us. It does take effort to shut out the stresses of the day, believe me I have prayed a prayer to God on a few occasions while being drawn into an embrace that God would throw out every thought from my mind except the love for my husband. The most amazing thing happens in that moment, a desire of fire comes over me like I couldn’t stir up myself. Believe me, I love and am so attracted to my husband, the issue lies with my view of myself. At the end of an overwhelming day It is not him, it is me. LADIES we need to do everything that we can to shake off our cares and tiredness and give our all to our husbands. When we do, he is massively built up and encouraged like you would never know.

YOU ARE YOUR HUSBANDS GREATEST GIFT, You are the one who can keep his passions in the home and not search for that love and acceptance outside. (However, they are the ones responsible for their actions especially when you have done all you can to show love, respect and honor).

This Valentine’s Day, stop looking, waiting and anticipating what your husband is going to do for you. Set your eyes on him 365 days of the year and give your all to him. It will shock you what may happen in return.

Ps. Wives, try taking a shower right before bed. It will do wonders for your sex life!!!!

Proverbs 31:10-31
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her,and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. She finds wool and flaxand busily spins it. She is like a merchant’s ship,bringing her food from afar.

She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her householdand plan the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it;with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong,a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable;her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread,her fingers twisting fiber.

She extends a helping hand to the poorand opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household,for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads.She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.

Her husband is well known at the city gates,where he sits with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garmentsand sashes to sell to the merchants. She is clothed with strength and dignity,and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise,and she gives instructions with kindness.

She carefully watches everything in her householdand suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her.Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done.Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

Here is an excellent article I found this morning along the same subject.
http://www.scissortailsilk.com/2015/02/10/christian-women-and-christian-grey/

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God Said it- I Believe it – That Settles It

My life is held together by God’s promises. There have been so many times in my life where God has spoken so clearly. In those times, I have to make sure I listen because I know I will have a decision to make. I can either take the word or promise He gives me and throw it over my shoulder, or I can stand on His word and believe it with all my heart. So often when I am faced with challenges, I revert back to His words and hold them up to God with Isaiah 55:10-11 in my mind and say, ” God YOU SAID….”. As I do this, a sense of determination comes over me to hold on to His word and promises like it is oxygen.

What do you think God’s response is?? I believe it is pride in His daughter standing on His word and realizing she is going to make it. He showers down strength, love, hope and peace. I am then energized and refocused on the solution and the answer to what I am crying out for. When we stand in a place of prayer declaring what God is already in the process of doing, we are pulling our future into our present. We don’t have to see the tangible answer in front of us, we need to see the promise God has made and hold Him to HIS word that what He has said He will do. As we align our hope to our faith it propels us into our destiny faster than if we just sit and wait for it to happen.

My husband spoke to the Fathers on Father’s Day last year at Destiny Christian Fellowship. It was a powerful word talking about us having to give God something for Him to work with. Here is the link to his message: We are made in His Awesome Image.
https://pogoplug.com/s/n4mxBv6wRjA/

I know without a doubt that my husband and I would not be in the place we are in, especially with a growing and thriving business if we did not take a hold of God’s promises and declare them in the hard times. We give Him all the glory for the things He has done, what He is doing and what He will do!!

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Release the Fire in your Bones

At Destiny Christian Fellowship we are so blessed to be able to release the “Fire in our Bones”. Thank you (dad) Pastor Joel Hjertstedt for setting an atmosphere of freedom and release in our church. I spoke with a woman yesterday at the Woman’s meeting who could not believe the freedom of the Holy Spirit at Destiny. It was only her 2nd week. Church- dont let it end as you walk out the door- Spread that passion and fire in every outlet God gives you. DONT WEAR YOURSELF OUT BY KEEPING IT IN!!

http://www.destinycf.org

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