Forgiveness is not an option

Forgive quickly, forgive often. Unforgiveness leads to resentment which begins to build a thick wall between you and the other person. There is nothing worse than allowing a wall to stay between you and the other person when you have all the power to bring it down through humility and repentance. When the Bible says do not let the sun go down on your Wrath, that doesn’t mean insane crazy wrath like you think it does. It also means not forgiving the person who hurt you 100% completely with no resentment.

Choose forgiveness, repent for resentment to God and the other person. Allow God to break the walls down. Then Joy, Peace, and Love will come. I did and boy does it feel good!

If you are married you need to listen to this message. It was transform both of you no matter how long you have been married. If you are single this applies to you just as much. Thanks Dad, I needed this good kick in the pants. Wow, what powerful teaching straight from the word of God! Message from Joel Hjertstedt, Lead Pastor at Destiny Christian Fellowship. Milwaukie, Oregon http://www.destinycf.org

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Keys to a close relationship 

I have walked through the image on this picture so many times in the last 15 years of marriage. The first thing that happens when something is wrong is to clam up and not share what is really going on. We think the other person is going to just know what is wrong and change. Seriously? That never happens! What does happen is we are filled with anger, resentment and frustration. The wedge between us becomes wider and the angry giant is fed.
Relationships require humility & thinking of someone else before ourselves. In this case it means taking out the scalpel and digging into the deep parts of our heart even if it hurts us and possibly the other person. Transparency is the first step of reconciliation. Transparency with God and with our spouse. If it is too hard to take the first step then we must go to God first before we go to someone outside the problem. God is the best counselor, but too often we don’t trust him enough to take care of us. In our society we want everything microwave fast, even wisdom and counsel. We will spend time talking to a friend or counselor before we talk to God. He is Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father and PRINCE of PEACE! Allow the Prince of Peace into your marriage and relationships then allow yourself to open up and share what is on your heart. In most cases the other person will open up and share what was bothering them and reconciliation will come!
This year, lets see 2016 bring together husband and wife, father/mother & children, siblings, relatives, friends and coworkers. Lets allow the love of the Father to penetrate every relationship and bring a revelation of unity to the world. Happy New Year!!