Sex and Alcohol and 15 year Olds – A Mothers Rant

This morning I had such a good talk with my 15 year old son about alcohol and sexual purity. He had asked me in the past why I choose not to drink alcohol. At that time I tried to explain the best I could about avoiding the appearance of evil and not wanting any of my actions to be a stumbling block to someone else. As a very young child I watched my parents try to restore alcoholics who had destroyed their families lives by their actions.

The fact that, yes you can drink and not get drunk and that is not a sin, is correct. I tried to tell him this morning, that now days, if you drink you have to know that where ever you are later in your life, that your actions as a young teen can haunt you or can be exploited and twisted and used against you.

Society knows what can happen when you get drunk and how it can possibly affect your behavior in a negative way. So for young kids who think their actions won’t follow them for the rest of their lives, just turn on the news.

As for sexual purity, boy do I have a new sense of passion to teach abstinence before marriage and complete loyalty after marriage. For some people, it can ruin your life and reputation till you die. I was able to tell him why being someone who stands for and lives in righteousness and purity should keep him blameless and avoid any false accusations because people will know your character and lifestyle. It is not Legalism to live a righteous life of sexual purity!

There are reasons God clearly lays those commandments out in the Bible. Just because he said the greatest commandment is to love one another, doesn’t mean to ignore the same commandment not to have sex before marriage or to cheat on your wife after marriage. All throuout Psalms it talks about the man who walks blameless.

Wow! I want to see a generation who can walk blameless and with purity before their God and the world.
I can’t even go into my past fears about having a daughter and fearing the abuse that could ever happen to her. It was the main reason I didn’t want a 3rd kid, because I was scared to death it would be a girl. God had to break off fear and I trust Him to protect her all the days of her life. At the same time, I am going to do everything I can to teach her Modesty in how she dresses so she doesn’t provoke a male attack! I am going to teach her the importance of who she hangs out with and not putting herself in compromising situations. I’m going to talk to her about purity in words she types and pictures she posts. As a parents I pray to God guides us with wisdom and discernment.

IF Abstinence was taught and practiced again, we could have a complete different society!
Think about that! God’s principles are true yesterday, today and forever! Theaffect they have on our lives if we live them or not is still evident every day with every person on this planet. Imagine what our country would look like if we skipped the hippie movement and kept God in our schools and in our homes. We have a choice as parents on how we instill values into our kids. Purity and honesty.

God help our nation. God help us as parents. God I cry out from the deepest party of my soul, PROTECT OUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS. HOLY SPIRIT FILL THEM WITH A RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION THAT WILL NEVER BACK DOWN DESPITE THE TEMPTATION FROM EVERY SIDE! LET THEM WALK IN PURITY AND Understand what the Fear of the Lord is, because He is Holy and Righteous. He is good. He desires us to be like him, walk like him, talk like him. We are to be imitators of Christ and show the world who Jesus is.

Well, that’s my heart this morning. Just had to share what is stirring inside.

What every wife knows, but struggles to express

 ” A wife’s sexual confidence does not begin in the bedroom, it blossoms as she is encouraged & complemented by her husband throughout the day.” ~ Rachelle Layzell

 

If you have a desire to spice up your sex life with your spouse check out the xxxchurch

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SUBJECTS DISCUSSED ARE:

How often should we be having sex?
How can we add spontaneity to keep sex fun?

What if one of us has physical or health restrictions?

What to do when your sex life goes wrong.

How to deal with past experiences that can affect the marriage bed.

Why won’t my spouse have sex with me?

My spouse had an affair, and though I’ve forgiven them I’m having trouble responding to them sexually. What do I do?

Pornography and Extramarital affairs.

What is and is not allowed in the bedroom? Are there biblical restrictions?

What if one of us is uncomfortable with something the other wants to do / try?

How to spice it up in the bedroom.

What about stuff like sexy lingerie, sex toys and sexting— is that OK?

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Wives, You Are Your Husbands Greatest Gift

The picture attached displays how most husbands view their wives at the end of her busy day. Despite the 10 loads of laundry, 2 loads of dishes, sweeping and picking up, being the worlds fastest taxi mom to 2 or 3 different schools, running a business from home, working full/part time or taking care of an infant at home – YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DESERVE A BREAK! Some fake a headache or others hardly acknowledge their husband until the last quick goodnight kiss, after all the kids have been tucked in bed. So is the life of today’s busy housewife/mother.

The every day tasks may be daunting and you may feel as though you never accomplish everything in one day, but did you know your husband is craving your attention. He want to feel as though you are just as in love with him as the first months you were together. He himself has most likely had a very stressful day, all be it, in a different way. But he needs a wife. Not just someone who cooks and cleans but a friend. Not to only feel like a sounding board for all the problems of your day, fights the kids had and how much your body hurts. He. Needs . A . Friend. A friend who listens to him, but most of all a wife who wants to spend time in his arms even under the covers.

As a wife and mother of 3 who also runs a business from my home, I understand the overwhelming feelings that come with this. I need to make sure make sure every day that I take time to focus on my husband, have compassion for him and his day, while at the same time, ready to turn up the heat and light the candles in the bedroom. We may think we look and feel a used up dish towel, but in our husbands eyes we are the hot little mama he fell in love with. The difference is our mindset and desire to be with him as he wants to be with us. It does take effort to shut out the stresses of the day, believe me I have prayed a prayer to God on a few occasions while being drawn into an embrace that God would throw out every thought from my mind except the love for my husband. The most amazing thing happens in that moment, a desire of fire comes over me like I couldn’t stir up myself. Believe me, I love and am so attracted to my husband, the issue lies with my view of myself. At the end of an overwhelming day It is not him, it is me. LADIES we need to do everything that we can to shake off our cares and tiredness and give our all to our husbands. When we do, he is massively built up and encouraged like you would never know.

YOU ARE YOUR HUSBANDS GREATEST GIFT, You are the one who can keep his passions in the home and not search for that love and acceptance outside. (However, they are the ones responsible for their actions especially when you have done all you can to show love, respect and honor).

This Valentine’s Day, stop looking, waiting and anticipating what your husband is going to do for you. Set your eyes on him 365 days of the year and give your all to him. It will shock you what may happen in return.

Ps. Wives, try taking a shower right before bed. It will do wonders for your sex life!!!!

Proverbs 31:10-31
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her,and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. She finds wool and flaxand busily spins it. She is like a merchant’s ship,bringing her food from afar.

She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her householdand plan the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it;with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong,a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable;her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread,her fingers twisting fiber.

She extends a helping hand to the poorand opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household,for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads.She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.

Her husband is well known at the city gates,where he sits with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garmentsand sashes to sell to the merchants. She is clothed with strength and dignity,and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise,and she gives instructions with kindness.

She carefully watches everything in her householdand suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her.Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done.Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

Here is an excellent article I found this morning along the same subject.
http://www.scissortailsilk.com/2015/02/10/christian-women-and-christian-grey/

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