Sex and Alcohol and 15 year Olds – A Mothers Rant

This morning I had such a good talk with my 15 year old son about alcohol and sexual purity. He had asked me in the past why I choose not to drink alcohol. At that time I tried to explain the best I could about avoiding the appearance of evil and not wanting any of my actions to be a stumbling block to someone else. As a very young child I watched my parents try to restore alcoholics who had destroyed their families lives by their actions.

The fact that, yes you can drink and not get drunk and that is not a sin, is correct. I tried to tell him this morning, that now days, if you drink you have to know that where ever you are later in your life, that your actions as a young teen can haunt you or can be exploited and twisted and used against you.

Society knows what can happen when you get drunk and how it can possibly affect your behavior in a negative way. So for young kids who think their actions won’t follow them for the rest of their lives, just turn on the news.

As for sexual purity, boy do I have a new sense of passion to teach abstinence before marriage and complete loyalty after marriage. For some people, it can ruin your life and reputation till you die. I was able to tell him why being someone who stands for and lives in righteousness and purity should keep him blameless and avoid any false accusations because people will know your character and lifestyle. It is not Legalism to live a righteous life of sexual purity!

There are reasons God clearly lays those commandments out in the Bible. Just because he said the greatest commandment is to love one another, doesn’t mean to ignore the same commandment not to have sex before marriage or to cheat on your wife after marriage. All throuout Psalms it talks about the man who walks blameless.

Wow! I want to see a generation who can walk blameless and with purity before their God and the world.
I can’t even go into my past fears about having a daughter and fearing the abuse that could ever happen to her. It was the main reason I didn’t want a 3rd kid, because I was scared to death it would be a girl. God had to break off fear and I trust Him to protect her all the days of her life. At the same time, I am going to do everything I can to teach her Modesty in how she dresses so she doesn’t provoke a male attack! I am going to teach her the importance of who she hangs out with and not putting herself in compromising situations. I’m going to talk to her about purity in words she types and pictures she posts. As a parents I pray to God guides us with wisdom and discernment.

IF Abstinence was taught and practiced again, we could have a complete different society!
Think about that! God’s principles are true yesterday, today and forever! Theaffect they have on our lives if we live them or not is still evident every day with every person on this planet. Imagine what our country would look like if we skipped the hippie movement and kept God in our schools and in our homes. We have a choice as parents on how we instill values into our kids. Purity and honesty.

God help our nation. God help us as parents. God I cry out from the deepest party of my soul, PROTECT OUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS. HOLY SPIRIT FILL THEM WITH A RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION THAT WILL NEVER BACK DOWN DESPITE THE TEMPTATION FROM EVERY SIDE! LET THEM WALK IN PURITY AND Understand what the Fear of the Lord is, because He is Holy and Righteous. He is good. He desires us to be like him, walk like him, talk like him. We are to be imitators of Christ and show the world who Jesus is.

Well, that’s my heart this morning. Just had to share what is stirring inside.

The New Porn Poisen For Kids

  
Innocence is lost quicker and easier than every parent understands. It is so grieving when you find out a devise in your house has been feeding an addiction you didnt know about or thought you already discussed and had security measures in place to prevent. But when the security measures stop working and you stop monitoring the devise it opens a world of sin and temptations too easy to access to resist, especially if we haven’t taken our kids through the preventions found in the links below. 

I am in shock how many kids now days have their own devise. I allowed my kids to have a devise at night to which I trusted they were only going onto the Adventures in Odyssey app to listen to shows. I made a mistake and allowed them to keep it in their rooms at night or during the day when they are sick. That has ALL changed! We have had many talks over the years about purity and staying away from porn and thought our internet security was doing the job of keeping the bad stuff out and restricting all YouTube and internet searching access. But it didnt work, something got disconnected and I didnt follow through in taking time to monitor the content on the devise.
If your kid has an devise that can access internet through their games and especially YouTube and if they are in a room where you are not able to view the screen they have access to more debauchery than you would even think to search for. Even innocent games like Angry Birds have advertisements that pop up with pornographic nude images taking kids to YouTube page with game reviews and ads that lead to darker and more evil porn traps. I’m not making it up, I saw it with my own eyes! Then the videos below get worse and worse, like a game review (which are VERY popular for kids to watch) for a game titled “How to lose your virginity.” All in cartoon form of course full of naked people and more f-bombs than you can count.

Cartoon Porn is the Devil’s candy to entise young kids. Private electonic devises are the free transportation to the candy store of Games and YouTube

 Here is a new article talking about the dangers of the new porn candy for kids

http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/exposing-the-new-wave-of-extreme-hentai-animated-porn/

If you have never heard about it, then your kids dont tell you. And that is not a good place to be in. Secrecy is how the enemy draws kids to himself and takes them to deeper levels. Jesus said He is the Light of the World and in Him there is no darkness. When the darkness is exposed to light of Christ it can be dealt with. 

We need to prevent our kids from going there and if it is too late than take them through a time of repentance, healing and restoration. Find a pastor or counselor to take your child through to make sure their spirit gets cleansed and free. It is not just a clinical issue it is a spiritual issue. Yes, kids go through the same spiritual sexual battles as adults do, starting younger than we ever would want to admit. We are not alone, there are resources out there to help. The first step is acknowledging there needs to be change either in our kids access to devises, the security monitoring program we use and most of all talking to our kids and educating them. 

It is one thing to trust our kids to make the right decisions, it is another thing to make them think we are never going to do our job as a parent and check up on them and help them continue to live a life of purity. Boys or girls it doesnt matter. The attitudes that kids pick up on in what they watch and listen to is just as impacting. If you are starting to see a change in your child’s attitude and behavior, being more rebellious and or reclusive I would recommend taking the steps to dig into their electronic devises and talk about what could be happening. I wont even get into minors having their own Facebook, Instagram and SnapChat accounts right now but I will later. That is allowing your kids to play with a poison that you have no idea the harmful consequences.

I am not legalistic and am realistic! Porn creeps into a child’s life easier and quicker than ever before because of us parents allowing them to have electronic devises unmonitored. It isn’t worth it, it just isn’t worth it to have the potential sinful consequences and healing that will need to take place because of it. I hope the below articles and books help you out as it will myself. We all need help with this and I cant wait to learn of more tools.

Praise The Lord – here is a powerful Cleaning Prayer for Sexual Sins. Thank God for the good part of the Internet , parents need every to we can get, and adults also! https://emergeing.wordpress.com/prayer-for-overcoming-sexual-stronghold/#comment-503

Online Porn Monsters http://www.covenanteyes.com/2013/05/08/online-porn-monsters/

AWESOME FREE STEP BY STEP BOOK – How to start a conversation with your kids about porn and lay a foundation for walking in purity. http://www.covenanteyes.com/when-your-child-is-looking-at-porn/?utm_campaign=when-your-child-is-looking-at-porn&utm_content=bottom_blog_post&utm_medium=web&utm_source=blog_post

Practical Tools to Protect Young Minds http://protectyoungminds.org/2016/03/24/protect-young-minds-practical-tools/

Strengthening our sons to avoid porn while they are still too young to know what it is http://www.jessicalynette.com/family-2/strengthening-our-sons-to-avoid-porn-while-they-are-still-too-young-to-know-what-it-is/

Kids are smarter than most adults when it comes to electonics. They know how to hide apps!

http://abc7.com/technology/kids-are-hiding-content-on-smartphones-with-secret-apps/1096088/

Excellent Book on Good Picture Bad picture- “How to talk to your child who is looking at porn”-http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/sitb/B00R9NROCS/ref=sib_dp_aw_kd_udp

Covenent Eyes is an excellent website of helpful material and resources for parents and individuals on how to keep  free from the addiction of Porn. Please check it out and most importantly follow through with your kids, I know we need to do it also!