Forgiveness is not an option

Forgive quickly, forgive often. Unforgiveness leads to resentment which begins to build a thick wall between you and the other person. There is nothing worse than allowing a wall to stay between you and the other person when you have all the power to bring it down through humility and repentance. When the Bible says do not let the sun go down on your Wrath, that doesn’t mean insane crazy wrath like you think it does. It also means not forgiving the person who hurt you 100% completely with no resentment.

Choose forgiveness, repent for resentment to God and the other person. Allow God to break the walls down. Then Joy, Peace, and Love will come. I did and boy does it feel good!

If you are married you need to listen to this message. It was transform both of you no matter how long you have been married. If you are single this applies to you just as much. Thanks Dad, I needed this good kick in the pants. Wow, what powerful teaching straight from the word of God! Message from Joel Hjertstedt, Lead Pastor at Destiny Christian Fellowship. Milwaukie, Oregon http://www.destinycf.org

https://www.dropbox.com/s/tw73mx58dxwy32w/20181209_Sunday_Message_Joel_Hjertstedt.mp3?dl=0

What every wife knows, but struggles to express

 ” A wife’s sexual confidence does not begin in the bedroom, it blossoms as she is encouraged & complemented by her husband throughout the day.” ~ Rachelle Layzell

 

If you have a desire to spice up your sex life with your spouse check out the xxxchurch

Best Sex Life Now is a series of 10 online-video sessions from Dave & Ashley Willis of StrongerMarriages.org and Craig & Jeanette Gross of XXXchurch.com plus 2 bonus videos from Jon Kitna (16 year NFL player) and his wife Jennifer and Aaron & Jennifer Smith (HusbandRevolution.com & UnveiledWife.com ) This workshop was created with the goal of helping married couples have better sex and experience genuine intimacy! The workshop comes with a companion downloadable and printable workbook and free bonus downloadable book (iVow) from Dave Willis.

SUBJECTS DISCUSSED ARE:

How often should we be having sex?
How can we add spontaneity to keep sex fun?

What if one of us has physical or health restrictions?

What to do when your sex life goes wrong.

How to deal with past experiences that can affect the marriage bed.

Why won’t my spouse have sex with me?

My spouse had an affair, and though I’ve forgiven them I’m having trouble responding to them sexually. What do I do?

Pornography and Extramarital affairs.

What is and is not allowed in the bedroom? Are there biblical restrictions?

What if one of us is uncomfortable with something the other wants to do / try?

How to spice it up in the bedroom.

What about stuff like sexy lingerie, sex toys and sexting— is that OK?

http://www.x3workshops.com/sex/

Declaration over Marriages!!

Praying for marriages today! Declaring PEACE in communications, CLARITY in vision, UNITY in hearts and GRACE to override anything the enemy tries to slip in the cracks. No weapon formed against your marriage will prosper. You are a gift to each other. I am declaring the Love of God to wash over you and strengthen every fiber of your union!! We are in this together!! Declaring all assignments from the enemy to bring agitation and strife to leave now. Holy Spirit release your love grace and peace and bring every couple into a unity like they have ever known. AMEN!!

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Danny Silk is the Family Pastor at Bethel Church in Redding, CA. His series Keeping Your Love on has revolutionized our lives.

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Wives, You Are Your Husbands Greatest Gift

The picture attached displays how most husbands view their wives at the end of her busy day. Despite the 10 loads of laundry, 2 loads of dishes, sweeping and picking up, being the worlds fastest taxi mom to 2 or 3 different schools, running a business from home, working full/part time or taking care of an infant at home – YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DESERVE A BREAK! Some fake a headache or others hardly acknowledge their husband until the last quick goodnight kiss, after all the kids have been tucked in bed. So is the life of today’s busy housewife/mother.

The every day tasks may be daunting and you may feel as though you never accomplish everything in one day, but did you know your husband is craving your attention. He want to feel as though you are just as in love with him as the first months you were together. He himself has most likely had a very stressful day, all be it, in a different way. But he needs a wife. Not just someone who cooks and cleans but a friend. Not to only feel like a sounding board for all the problems of your day, fights the kids had and how much your body hurts. He. Needs . A . Friend. A friend who listens to him, but most of all a wife who wants to spend time in his arms even under the covers.

As a wife and mother of 3 who also runs a business from my home, I understand the overwhelming feelings that come with this. I need to make sure make sure every day that I take time to focus on my husband, have compassion for him and his day, while at the same time, ready to turn up the heat and light the candles in the bedroom. We may think we look and feel a used up dish towel, but in our husbands eyes we are the hot little mama he fell in love with. The difference is our mindset and desire to be with him as he wants to be with us. It does take effort to shut out the stresses of the day, believe me I have prayed a prayer to God on a few occasions while being drawn into an embrace that God would throw out every thought from my mind except the love for my husband. The most amazing thing happens in that moment, a desire of fire comes over me like I couldn’t stir up myself. Believe me, I love and am so attracted to my husband, the issue lies with my view of myself. At the end of an overwhelming day It is not him, it is me. LADIES we need to do everything that we can to shake off our cares and tiredness and give our all to our husbands. When we do, he is massively built up and encouraged like you would never know.

YOU ARE YOUR HUSBANDS GREATEST GIFT, You are the one who can keep his passions in the home and not search for that love and acceptance outside. (However, they are the ones responsible for their actions especially when you have done all you can to show love, respect and honor).

This Valentine’s Day, stop looking, waiting and anticipating what your husband is going to do for you. Set your eyes on him 365 days of the year and give your all to him. It will shock you what may happen in return.

Ps. Wives, try taking a shower right before bed. It will do wonders for your sex life!!!!

Proverbs 31:10-31
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her,and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. She finds wool and flaxand busily spins it. She is like a merchant’s ship,bringing her food from afar.

She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her householdand plan the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it;with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong,a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable;her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread,her fingers twisting fiber.

She extends a helping hand to the poorand opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household,for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads.She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.

Her husband is well known at the city gates,where he sits with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garmentsand sashes to sell to the merchants. She is clothed with strength and dignity,and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise,and she gives instructions with kindness.

She carefully watches everything in her householdand suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her.Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done.Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

Here is an excellent article I found this morning along the same subject.
http://www.scissortailsilk.com/2015/02/10/christian-women-and-christian-grey/

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Angels encamp around us! Thank God for protection

On Sunday my husband was heading out with my 11 year old son and some friends to go kayaking. Allowing him to do that has been a step of faith, especially as he wants to push his limits every time. Sunday was his birthday weekend, 60* degrees in January to boot, excellent time to go for a short trip.
On the way down our street a paddle flew out the back of the truck bed, he turned quickly to see what happened, then THIS Happened

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The verse, “the angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him”, came to mind as he told me there was an accident. The three in the truck had to climb out the window, but praise God all the windows were still in tack. They went to the shop and drove the forklift down the road to pull the truck out. Everyone was fine, but the truck needs some major work.

In those moments there are so many emotions that go through your head. For me it was the fact that all along our road is a steep cliff. There are only a couple places where there is solid ground on the left. They hit the last ditch possible without the cliff. God protected me husband, son and friend. The thought came to mind, what if God was actually protecting them from something worse that could have happened on the River that day. We never want an accident to happen. But, that day, I was thanking God nothing worse happened. Not a scratch on their body.

I am one thankful wife and mother. As I was praying today for a family who has to give testimony in a criminal case, I had to find pictures to declare over them. These were my favorite ones.

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In this last picture below that most all of us have seen, you will notice the missing plank on the bridge. See, God could have filled in the hole, but he didn’t. He said “I will give my angels charge over you to protect you in all your ways”. We will still have scary situations in our lives, but God will send help for you always.

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Praying that God gives you peace and rest as you walk through this life with him. Blessings to you!!

God is Jealous for YOU!

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This morning I saw a picture from a trip to the Lego Store with my boys and it reminded me that God is jealous for us. He is fierce to protect us against from the evil that comes at us.

I found an article which matches what I am saying perfectly. It even talked about jealously as Shakespeare quoted as being “green” like the hulk in my picture! http://www.girlfriendsingod.com/2012/god-is-jealous-for-me/

This thought puts me at rest in many ways. I know God has got my kids back, He has my husbands back and mine. We are not alone. Even though the face of “the Hulk” in the pic looks scary, to me it shows the intensity God is ready to fight for me with. He loves us with an everlasting love.  Nothing you can do can take that away. No matter how far you run or try to hide, He wants to protect and cover you. Under the shadow of His wings, but in this case, his very muscular arms!

Song of Solomon 8:6-
“Put me like a seal over your heart, Like a seal on your arm.
For love is as strong as death, Jealousy is as severe as Sheol;
Its flashes are flashes of fire, The very flame of the LORD.
7“Many waters cannot quench love, Nor will rivers overflow it;
If a man were to give all the riches of his house for love, It would be utterly despised.”