The picture attached displays how most husbands view their wives at the end of her busy day. Despite the 10 loads of laundry, 2 loads of dishes, sweeping and picking up, being the worlds fastest taxi mom to 2 or 3 different schools, running a business from home, working full/part time or taking care of an infant at home – YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DESERVE A BREAK! Some fake a headache or others hardly acknowledge their husband until the last quick goodnight kiss, after all the kids have been tucked in bed. So is the life of today’s busy housewife/mother.
The every day tasks may be daunting and you may feel as though you never accomplish everything in one day, but did you know your husband is craving your attention. He want to feel as though you are just as in love with him as the first months you were together. He himself has most likely had a very stressful day, all be it, in a different way. But he needs a wife. Not just someone who cooks and cleans but a friend. Not to only feel like a sounding board for all the problems of your day, fights the kids had and how much your body hurts. He. Needs . A . Friend. A friend who listens to him, but most of all a wife who wants to spend time in his arms even under the covers.
As a wife and mother of 3 who also runs a business from my home, I understand the overwhelming feelings that come with this. I need to make sure make sure every day that I take time to focus on my husband, have compassion for him and his day, while at the same time, ready to turn up the heat and light the candles in the bedroom. We may think we look and feel a used up dish towel, but in our husbands eyes we are the hot little mama he fell in love with. The difference is our mindset and desire to be with him as he wants to be with us. It does take effort to shut out the stresses of the day, believe me I have prayed a prayer to God on a few occasions while being drawn into an embrace that God would throw out every thought from my mind except the love for my husband. The most amazing thing happens in that moment, a desire of fire comes over me like I couldn’t stir up myself. Believe me, I love and am so attracted to my husband, the issue lies with my view of myself. At the end of an overwhelming day It is not him, it is me. LADIES we need to do everything that we can to shake off our cares and tiredness and give our all to our husbands. When we do, he is massively built up and encouraged like you would never know.
YOU ARE YOUR HUSBANDS GREATEST GIFT, You are the one who can keep his passions in the home and not search for that love and acceptance outside. (However, they are the ones responsible for their actions especially when you have done all you can to show love, respect and honor).
This Valentine’s Day, stop looking, waiting and anticipating what your husband is going to do for you. Set your eyes on him 365 days of the year and give your all to him. It will shock you what may happen in return.
Ps. Wives, try taking a shower right before bed. It will do wonders for your sex life!!!!
Proverbs 31:10-31
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her,and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. She finds wool and flaxand busily spins it. She is like a merchant’s ship,bringing her food from afar.
She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her householdand plan the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it;with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong,a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable;her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread,her fingers twisting fiber.
She extends a helping hand to the poorand opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household,for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads.She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
Her husband is well known at the city gates,where he sits with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garmentsand sashes to sell to the merchants. She is clothed with strength and dignity,and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise,and she gives instructions with kindness.
She carefully watches everything in her householdand suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her.Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done.Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Here is an excellent article I found this morning along the same subject.
http://www.scissortailsilk.com/2015/02/10/christian-women-and-christian-grey/
