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Why it is important to tell your kids your personal testimony

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God is so faithful to give us parents wisdom when we ask. While the enemy tries to bring in fear and doubt, the Spirit of the Lord raises up a standard against him when we pray! I was crying out to God today for wisdom after seeing little attitudes creep up I didnt like. I told my child Nothing in my life matters except that I know their relationship with Jesus will last their whole life. They saw my passion through my tears as I told them that My only concern is teaching them to follow after Him in purity and that their life would be full of the fruit of the spirit and love. None of us know how long we are in this planet and it is my #1 priority above all else that they know how important it is to make Godly decisions in all they do.
I decided to use my TESTIMONY, which is the spirit of prophecy, to let my child know I wasn’t always a perfect little girl. Without going into detail I was able to share how from 4-13 I lead a double life hiding sin and giving into temptation. I shared my struggles and the condemnation I would feel after repenting but going back to it. I shared how I walked with shame all those years and hid it not sharing with my parents. That it wasn’t till I was much older that I confessed to my youth pastor and my parents and was lead through steps of forgiveness. (In reality I wasn’t totally free till I went through a “SOZO” which some amazing trained counselor/prayer team took me through many layers of Jesus coming and revealing himself to me in my times of sin, where he was and how he loved me all the way through. I recommend it to anyone!) I told them they can always know we are here to talk to and they dont have to feel ashamed, especially now since they know I messed up also. Its time for us to be real with our kids, allowing them to have a safe place if they mess up. A place of healing and restoration to get on the right track. Jesus never turns His back on us, neither should we!
Our kids should always feel safe talking with us and if they dont we get to keep on gently tenderizing the ground in trust, wisdom, discernment and HAVING A HEART CONNECTION WITH OUR KIDS. If we feel the heart connection is widening it is time to STOP EVERYTHING AND GIVE THEM ALL OUR ATTENTION TILL THE CONNECTION IS TIGHT AGAIN. Lord, help us to know if and when this is happening and how to bridge the gap. Praying for you and your connections! God we want our kids to follow hard after you and never wander. Help us know how to parent wisely, not step into unexplained legalism, oh boy, but know how to explain in a clear and wise way why God isnt pleased with the things of the world and why we need to stay separate from it. Being set apart, as we learned on Sunday, holy and consecrated to God. That living a pure and holy, Godly life is NOT a bore! That living righteously brings FREEDOM, JOY and PEACE NOT FOUND ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD. We are raising kids who are ushering in the Kingdom of Heaven, they will transform this world in ways we could only dream of. The same spirit that raised Christ Jesus from the dead LIVES IN THEM!! There is NO JR. HOLY SPIRIT. They are not going to have to wait till they are their parents age to experience all that God has for them it begins NOW!! HA, YES JESUS! I declare it, I declare it over my kids and all those who are reading this, their kids and grandkids! AMEN
  

The New Porn Poisen For Kids

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Innocence is lost quicker and easier than every parent understands. It is so grieving when you find out a devise in your house has been feeding an addiction you didnt know about or thought you already discussed and had security measures in place to prevent. But when the security measures stop working and you stop monitoring the devise it opens a world of sin and temptations too easy to access to resist, especially if we haven’t taken our kids through the preventions found in the links below. 

I am in shock how many kids now days have their own devise. I allowed my kids to have a devise at night to which I trusted they were only going onto the Adventures in Odyssey app to listen to shows. I made a mistake and allowed them to keep it in their rooms at night or during the day when they are sick. That has ALL changed! We have had many talks over the years about purity and staying away from porn and thought our internet security was doing the job of keeping the bad stuff out and restricting all YouTube and internet searching access. But it didnt work, something got disconnected and I didnt follow through in taking time to monitor the content on the devise.
If your kid has an devise that can access internet through their games and especially YouTube and if they are in a room where you are not able to view the screen they have access to more debauchery than you would even think to search for. Even innocent games like Angry Birds have advertisements that pop up with pornographic nude images taking kids to YouTube page with game reviews and ads that lead to darker and more evil porn traps. I’m not making it up, I saw it with my own eyes! Then the videos below get worse and worse, like a game review (which are VERY popular for kids to watch) for a game titled “How to lose your virginity.” All in cartoon form of course full of naked people and more f-bombs than you can count.

Cartoon Porn is the Devil’s candy to entise young kids. Private electonic devises are the free transportation to the candy store of Games and YouTube

 Here is a new article talking about the dangers of the new porn candy for kids

http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/exposing-the-new-wave-of-extreme-hentai-animated-porn/

If you have never heard about it, then your kids dont tell you. And that is not a good place to be in. Secrecy is how the enemy draws kids to himself and takes them to deeper levels. Jesus said He is the Light of the World and in Him there is no darkness. When the darkness is exposed to light of Christ it can be dealt with. 

We need to prevent our kids from going there and if it is too late than take them through a time of repentance, healing and restoration. Find a pastor or counselor to take your child through to make sure their spirit gets cleansed and free. It is not just a clinical issue it is a spiritual issue. Yes, kids go through the same spiritual sexual battles as adults do, starting younger than we ever would want to admit. We are not alone, there are resources out there to help. The first step is acknowledging there needs to be change either in our kids access to devises, the security monitoring program we use and most of all talking to our kids and educating them. 

It is one thing to trust our kids to make the right decisions, it is another thing to make them think we are never going to do our job as a parent and check up on them and help them continue to live a life of purity. Boys or girls it doesnt matter. The attitudes that kids pick up on in what they watch and listen to is just as impacting. If you are starting to see a change in your child’s attitude and behavior, being more rebellious and or reclusive I would recommend taking the steps to dig into their electronic devises and talk about what could be happening. I wont even get into minors having their own Facebook, Instagram and SnapChat accounts right now but I will later. That is allowing your kids to play with a poison that you have no idea the harmful consequences.

I am not legalistic and am realistic! Porn creeps into a child’s life easier and quicker than ever before because of us parents allowing them to have electronic devises unmonitored. It isn’t worth it, it just isn’t worth it to have the potential sinful consequences and healing that will need to take place because of it. I hope the below articles and books help you out as it will myself. We all need help with this and I cant wait to learn of more tools.

Praise The Lord – here is a powerful Cleaning Prayer for Sexual Sins. Thank God for the good part of the Internet , parents need every to we can get, and adults also! https://emergeing.wordpress.com/prayer-for-overcoming-sexual-stronghold/#comment-503

Online Porn Monsters http://www.covenanteyes.com/2013/05/08/online-porn-monsters/

AWESOME FREE STEP BY STEP BOOK – How to start a conversation with your kids about porn and lay a foundation for walking in purity. http://www.covenanteyes.com/when-your-child-is-looking-at-porn/?utm_campaign=when-your-child-is-looking-at-porn&utm_content=bottom_blog_post&utm_medium=web&utm_source=blog_post

Practical Tools to Protect Young Minds http://protectyoungminds.org/2016/03/24/protect-young-minds-practical-tools/

Strengthening our sons to avoid porn while they are still too young to know what it is http://www.jessicalynette.com/family-2/strengthening-our-sons-to-avoid-porn-while-they-are-still-too-young-to-know-what-it-is/

Kids are smarter than most adults when it comes to electonics. They know how to hide apps!

http://abc7.com/technology/kids-are-hiding-content-on-smartphones-with-secret-apps/1096088/

Excellent Book on Good Picture Bad picture- “How to talk to your child who is looking at porn”-http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/sitb/B00R9NROCS/ref=sib_dp_aw_kd_udp

Covenent Eyes is an excellent website of helpful material and resources for parents and individuals on how to keep  free from the addiction of Porn. Please check it out and most importantly follow through with your kids, I know we need to do it also!

3 Ways to Protect Your Child’s Innocence with Electronics

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3 ways to check how your innocent kids may be affected by unintentional trash on their electronics. Parents, if you have minor children in your house who have access to a iPhone, iPod, iPad or other brand devices, You need to read this!  Have you done a check recently on what they have been engaging with? I would severely encourage you to set boundaries with your kids and have them realize their electronics are a privilege not a right and you have access anytime to do a check. And do it weekly if needed. With our kids they are required to tell us what the password is and give us access it anytime. When they try to swipe things up before they hand it over it puts me on edge. For those of you who need help in a technological way of how to look at their history here are two ways to do it

Go to:

Settings -General- Usage – Battery Usage (this will show you which apps or things they have had open in the last 24 hours or more)

The most important one is to check what they have been watching on the Internet. This can be done two ways: first go to Safari.

On Safari – click on the book in the toolbar below- then look at history

The next most important and most revealing is to go on to that YouTube app – clicked on the dashed lines in the top left-hand corner and select history. Many apps from games nowadays will ask kids if they want free coin by viewing a video. But the sinful crap that comes before their eyes and ears is something you will never be able to take away. I recommend removing any game that requires young kids to watch videos for free coins. The temptation is so great because any kid wants free coins. But what comes through the speakers would absolutely make you throw up like it did with me tonight. Even though my son said he never watches the videos he turns them over when they begin to play and does not listen to your phones, the level of filth I saw was beyond sick. I need to pray a cleansing prayer over myself from just what I saw (Pig in a Strip Club) need I say more!

Parents this is not legalistic and it is not taking away your kids choices, it is been a good parent. A parent that loves your kids. Parent who’s teaching them to make good choices. But sometimes kids need a revelation on what those choices are. God tells us to train up a child in the way he should go and when he is older he will not depart. (Proverbs 22:6)

Training doesn’t mean tell them one time and expect they will do it right every time. It is up to us to show them what a godly standard is.Its when you see secretive behavior when you begin questioning kids that you know there is something there that is pricking their conscience.  We cant give up asking questions and asking the Holy Spirit to bring to light what is hidden. If not there is a path of destruction drawing them in. We need to pray that God gives parents and guardians wisdom. On how to train our kids hearts. The temptation of this world is absolutely horrible and going to get worse. God have mercy on the parents of the last generation.

Here are some of the top apps that block porn

http://appcrawlr.com/ios-apps/best-apps-block-porn

There are two other amazing computer protection and accountability websites:

Covenant Eyes: http://www.covenanteyes.com

Net Nanny: http://www.netnanny.com

This Monicip program for handheld devices is amazing. I just paid for the premium subscription and it is worth every penny. I just installed it on my kids devices. You can customize everything specifically and what is restricted as well as customize each of the 5 devices and their security level. Tim and I are getting set up on it now. This is the first program I have found that uses its own browser to help block restricted sites. I am so thankful God led me to this.

http://www.mobicip.com/

Here is an article from TIME Magazine on Christians and pornography (Thank you to my friend Shara for sending it to me)

Freedom for your children: Breaking thoughts of agreement

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This morning I had to walk my son through some steps of freedom. Even though he is trying his hardest in school and is getting the work done, it is so intense he feels like he is drowning. For a kids with learning challenges, growing up means everything gets harder. He began agreeing with the lies of the enemy and last night and this morning came into my room because of disturbing dreams. He had a dream that there was a scary lion outside our house looking at him and it came onto our porch. This morning we had a long talk and prayer time. I read with him in

1 Pet 5:8 “Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.”

I told him that when life is hard the enemy puts thoughts in our minds like we are a failure, life & school is torture, I want to give up, and when we agree with those thoughts and speak them out loud or draw them on our homework, are are coming into agreement with him and allowing him to take a cubby in our mind. We then prayed together and I had him repeat a prayer of asking forgiveness for agreeing with the specific thoughts he was having, Then asking and receiving the Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Gentleness, Faithfulness & Self-Control (Fruits of the spirit) Of God. His mood completely shifted after we prayed.

When the kids get home we are going to go through Psalms 19 and talk about our thoughts. Parents, take advantage of every opportunity to show your kids the freedom that is found in the word of God and what it means to walk through life in that freedom. Even children can come into agreement with the lies of the enemy. We need to recognize when that happens and walk them through a prayer time of freedom. The dream that my son had, I thank God for!! Even though it scared him, it allowed this beautiful opportunity to share the truth of the word of God. I am so grateful!

Psalms 19: 7-14

 The law of the Lord is perfect,
refreshing the soul.
The statutes of the Lord are trustworthy,
making wise the simple.
8 The precepts of the Lord are right,
giving joy to the heart.
The commands of the Lord are radiant,
giving light to the eyes.
9 The fear of the Lord is pure,
enduring forever.
The decrees of the Lord are firm,
and all of them are righteous.

10 They are more precious than gold,
than much pure gold;
they are sweeter than honey,
than honey from the honeycomb.
11 By them your servant is warned;
in keeping them there is great reward.
12 But who can discern their own errors?
Forgive my hidden faults.
13 Keep your servant also from willful sins;
may they not rule over me.
Then I will be blameless,
innocent of great transgression.

14 May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight,
Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.