Forgiveness is not an option

Forgive quickly, forgive often. Unforgiveness leads to resentment which begins to build a thick wall between you and the other person. There is nothing worse than allowing a wall to stay between you and the other person when you have all the power to bring it down through humility and repentance. When the Bible says do not let the sun go down on your Wrath, that doesn’t mean insane crazy wrath like you think it does. It also means not forgiving the person who hurt you 100% completely with no resentment.

Choose forgiveness, repent for resentment to God and the other person. Allow God to break the walls down. Then Joy, Peace, and Love will come. I did and boy does it feel good!

If you are married you need to listen to this message. It was transform both of you no matter how long you have been married. If you are single this applies to you just as much. Thanks Dad, I needed this good kick in the pants. Wow, what powerful teaching straight from the word of God! Message from Joel Hjertstedt, Lead Pastor at Destiny Christian Fellowship. Milwaukie, Oregon http://www.destinycf.org

https://www.dropbox.com/s/tw73mx58dxwy32w/20181209_Sunday_Message_Joel_Hjertstedt.mp3?dl=0

Crying out to God for the USA


🎉There is an excitement welling up deep with in me. 🎉Despite the confusion and restlessness in our nation GOD IS ON THE THRONE! 👑If Hillary wins there will continue to be a revelation and unveiling of the corruption that we have never experienced before in our country. I have no fear, but excitement because the prayers of the church and the saints who have gone before us have cried out to God to heal our land. How can God heal if we refuse to deal with hidden sin. I pray that all unrighteousness that is hidden will be REVEALED, for Hillary personally and all her ties and affiliations as well as our government. This goes for Trump as well, If he is elected I pray that the hidden sins would be revealed as well. Purifying a person or a government can only lead to greater favor and blessing. 🎗

We need to move from a place of dread and worry to a place of Faith! From a place of hate and division to a place of Love and Understanding. ❤️I have many Christian friends who are democrats. They love America and have a desire for it to prosper and for its people to live in health and safety. There are good and bad things on both sides of the isle. There are areas on the Republic side that need a softer heart when it comes to taking care of the mentally ill, those who have been abused and desperately need help. BUT we need Wisdom on how to go about these things. It isnt just about throwing money 💸at the problem and going into debt hoping it will all work out. We NEED HEAVENLY WISDOM AND STRATEGY 💡to help the social areas of society!! We need to show love to our youth and train them in the way God has given us in the Bible to live a life of purity before marriage 💍and what it means to be faithful in all things to your spouse after marriage. We need to teach them how and new marrieds about how to have strong families and keep God’s word as the center and follow after his statutes. 

We need to help struggling marriages, and those who are abusing others verbally, emotionally, physically and sexually. We need to teach men & women how to provide for their families, at a young age. Teach them to be responsible and work hard so they are good employees and have ambition to move up the ladder. We need to take care of the elderly and not forsake them. The heath of Society begins at Home and then goes into our schools, businesses and government ect. God has a plan, 👌we need to partner with HIM and stop finding ways to disagree with others. Its time to work together as a nation, in our churches -UNITY & PURE HEARTS towards each other! 

🇺🇸God has GREAT PLANS FOR AMERICA- GOD LOVES AMERICA AND HAD NOT GIVEN UP ON HER- PLEASE MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT GIVE UP ON HER AS WELL!!🇺🇸


God I cry out for my country!! 🙏🏻 Please OPEN OUR EYES 👀 TO TRUTH!!! 🔦Remove the blindness of Deception that has come through corruption. LET YOUR TRUTH BE REVEALED TO THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA 🇺🇸 BUT GOD even more let 💞 hearts Be changed and softened to accept the truth!! Father we want your favor to return to America and we know it can only come when our hearts are united with you. You alone are the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords. You are in Control! We will no longer sit back and give in, we will take our responsibility serious for our country and Vote! We will partner with you even when we do not understand all the answers. 🎤JESUS COME AND TOUCH US, make us strong in your might, overcome our weakness so we can stand up and fight. Let your Glory fall on the USA. Let it Go forth from here to the nations. Let your fragrance rest in this place as we gather to seek your face. Let your kingdom come! Let YOUR WILL BE DONE. LET US SEE ON EARTH 🌎 THE GLORY OF YOUR SON ☀️!

With ballots coming in the mail, I wanted to share something that happened during the primaries that transformed my perspective big time. 😱 I wrote this back in April-May 2016 and it still is true for me today. Everyone has their own opinion and this is what completely changed mine. I believe only God could give me dreams like this to change my heart because afterwards I did a 180.

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Let me start first by saying this, I have always been as far right as you could ever get as far pure conservative views and moral compass and have been labeled the crazy conservative by many of my friends. (In 7th grade I preached to my private Jr. High about the bad influences of secular music and rock & roll, see! They even thought I was way too conservative in 1992) So for me to say that I am even thinking of voting for Donald Trump seems absolutely ludicrous. But there are times when what we think we should do is different than what is going on in our spirit. A couple months ago I was praying that God would visit his people in their dreams about the presidential candidates. But totally forgot about that when I had a dream in April that shook me to the core. In my dream my son was sitting up on top of a dresser playing with a ball. He dropped the ball and it rolled under the dresser on the dirty ground. To my surprise Donald Trump was standing there in his nice suit and he bent down and got on his hands and knees to reach for the ball way under the dresser and stood up with a kind smile on his face. He handed the ball to my son. In my dream I was astounded and told him, “Please you don’t have to do that.” but he said “I want to.” My son continue to drop the ball over and over and the same thing happened again and again with Donald Trump getting on his knees and reaching for the ball kindly giving it to my son as his suite got dirtier and dirtier. I remember thinking in my dream why would someone like that not care about getting dirty just to help my son. I had so much peace in my dream. I woke up astounded at what I had dreamed, but more so the peace that I felt and the shock in seeing Donald Trump serve my son in a way I never thought he would. 

I had a second dream a month later, I was in a room with Mr. Trump and he was so gentle, compassionate and sensitive while talking to me. My heart felt compelled by love for him. It washed over me like something I have never felt for a presidential candidate. I woke up again in complete shock. What in the world is happening to me? Everything in my natural rational mind says Trump doesnt have the moral compass to be my choice, but God is definitely doing something to change my heart in my dreams. I sincerely pray if Trump is God’s choice that I am not the only one being changed by my dreams. 

After the endorsement of Trump by Dr. Ben Carson, now more than ever, those in the conservative media need to hear our voices. They need us to help bring understanding to help them realize there are a huge number of constitutional conservative purists who see beyond the surface of Donald Trump to what God can do through him in our nation. I believe Carson can help open the eyes of other Republicans since he has lead such a pure campaign in speech, beliefs and conduct. This is what I shared with Dr. Ben Carson the morning after his FB announcement 

“Your example of faith shines bright and pure as gold. You are not in this for the politics as some may say now. I am praying that God will guide His people to make the right decision. That the religions spirit of America will be exposed and the Spirit of God will be poured out on our land in a way like we never would have expected. Now we are praying for a Damascus Road experience for Trump. That his eyes would be open to Jesus Christ like never before. To God be the glory!”

The United States of America has had a Republican-controlled House and Senate for the last four years. Unfortunately even with Republican control Obama has passed treacherous laws that have not been stopped in our country. The Democratic Party is not the only one who has been filled with corruption the Republican Party Establishment has blood on its hands also. They have not stood for conservative values like they preach about. They cater to lobbyists and campaign donors being swayed by their lust for money and power. I guess since Trump already has money and power he does not have to cater to anyone.

I only know that God is our only savior for America and by His power he can change and draw ANYONE TO HIM. I think people forget that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! God is messing me up with this big time because it is defying all logic why I am being drawn to Trump. MAYBE GOD KNOWS SOMETHING WE DO NOT!

I am praying for you Mr. Trump! Praying that God protects you and your family. Praying God gives you wisdom, understanding and discernment. I am asking God to give me scriptures for him this is the first one 

James 1:19-27 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent, and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom and continues in it – not forgetting what they have heard but doing it – they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless. Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. 

Last night I was speaking with a Ted Cruz delegate and she said she has never met a nice Trump supporter. I told her that there are thousands and thousands out there who have held back this election cycle in voicing their opinions publicly because they feel as soon as they begin to lift their head out of the sand every Christian, Republican, Democrat and all those in between will come and brutally whack their head off. But as has been seen all over the country they are finally able to make their voices heard when they are alone with their ballot. I’m praying the church listens to what God is saying in this time.

PRAY Until Something Happens – 2016

PRAY Until Something Happens – 2016Today I pray for our families. I pray that the fathers will live a life of purity and accountability with God. That they would be examples to our children and teach them how a young man should cleanse his way. That husbands would love their wives and uplift them. I pray for mothers that we would parent our kids with grace and love. That every word that comes out of our mouth would be in tone and content how the Lord would want us to speak. That as wives we would learn to honor and respect our husbands in word and deed.

 Let our children experience the tangible presence of God so intensely that their destiny will be thrust into place. Let them walk in purity and holiness with a passion for You. Thank you that there is NO Jr. Holy Spirit. And greater things will be released through them this year. Let us and our children lay hands on the sick and see them healed, that the blind will see and the deaf will hear, the dead will be raised. No disease is impossible for Jesus to heal!!! HIS BLOOD PAID FOR EVERYTHING.  

Most importantly that God would be the center of our homes that we would to walk and talk with Him throughout the day and allow His voice to direct our steps. That we would serve each other and the body of Christ with a willing heart. So the world will see Jesus in us THE HOPE OF GLORY and come to His loving arms. Father God come and move in our country. We lift you up and magnify your Holy Name. The name that is above all names. Come and stir your church to walk, talk and be your hands and feet to the world. Let the trembling that is felt in the spirit break forth demonstrations of your glory in a powerful way. Let health and wholeness which is our spiritual birthright be released over us that we might walk in your power and might. Jesus you have already won every battle! You are our captain and we stand at attention in your army. 

Use us Lord, let us be a light in this word. You said if I be lifted up, I will draw all men unto me. Let us see this year every prodigal return, every hardened heart softened and salvation and restoration come to our loved ones. Thank you Father that greater is He that is within us than he that is in the world. We are MORE than Conquerors because of the blood of Jesus. And NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST US SHALL PROSPER!! HALLELUJAH AND AMEN!!  

  

Keys to a close relationship 

I have walked through the image on this picture so many times in the last 15 years of marriage. The first thing that happens when something is wrong is to clam up and not share what is really going on. We think the other person is going to just know what is wrong and change. Seriously? That never happens! What does happen is we are filled with anger, resentment and frustration. The wedge between us becomes wider and the angry giant is fed.
Relationships require humility & thinking of someone else before ourselves. In this case it means taking out the scalpel and digging into the deep parts of our heart even if it hurts us and possibly the other person. Transparency is the first step of reconciliation. Transparency with God and with our spouse. If it is too hard to take the first step then we must go to God first before we go to someone outside the problem. God is the best counselor, but too often we don’t trust him enough to take care of us. In our society we want everything microwave fast, even wisdom and counsel. We will spend time talking to a friend or counselor before we talk to God. He is Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father and PRINCE of PEACE! Allow the Prince of Peace into your marriage and relationships then allow yourself to open up and share what is on your heart. In most cases the other person will open up and share what was bothering them and reconciliation will come!
This year, lets see 2016 bring together husband and wife, father/mother & children, siblings, relatives, friends and coworkers. Lets allow the love of the Father to penetrate every relationship and bring a revelation of unity to the world. Happy New Year!!  

What every wife knows, but struggles to express

 ” A wife’s sexual confidence does not begin in the bedroom, it blossoms as she is encouraged & complemented by her husband throughout the day.” ~ Rachelle Layzell

 

If you have a desire to spice up your sex life with your spouse check out the xxxchurch

Best Sex Life Now is a series of 10 online-video sessions from Dave & Ashley Willis of StrongerMarriages.org and Craig & Jeanette Gross of XXXchurch.com plus 2 bonus videos from Jon Kitna (16 year NFL player) and his wife Jennifer and Aaron & Jennifer Smith (HusbandRevolution.com & UnveiledWife.com ) This workshop was created with the goal of helping married couples have better sex and experience genuine intimacy! The workshop comes with a companion downloadable and printable workbook and free bonus downloadable book (iVow) from Dave Willis.

SUBJECTS DISCUSSED ARE:

How often should we be having sex?
How can we add spontaneity to keep sex fun?

What if one of us has physical or health restrictions?

What to do when your sex life goes wrong.

How to deal with past experiences that can affect the marriage bed.

Why won’t my spouse have sex with me?

My spouse had an affair, and though I’ve forgiven them I’m having trouble responding to them sexually. What do I do?

Pornography and Extramarital affairs.

What is and is not allowed in the bedroom? Are there biblical restrictions?

What if one of us is uncomfortable with something the other wants to do / try?

How to spice it up in the bedroom.

What about stuff like sexy lingerie, sex toys and sexting— is that OK?

http://www.x3workshops.com/sex/

Foundational Tool Essentials for every kind of relationship

If you are going through any struggles in your relationship whether it be with your spouse, relatives, friend or coworker – you need these two books Keep Your Love On by Danny Silk & The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They have revolutionized my life and marriage in ways no other teaching tools has. They should be a foundation in your life no matter what age or status you are. Destiny Christian Fellowship Family Life Ministries will be starting the first two Video sessions from Danny Silk’s book “Keep Your Love On” this Saturday.

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The Reason I Live and Breathe

Lately there has been a heightened level of talk about the coming back of Jesus. Especially if you listen to the teachings on what is happening in the signs in the heavens, and the blood moons.

I know HE is coming back and I also know that no man or woman knows the day or the hour. I have no doubt, however, that the season is getting closer. People are talking about economic collapse, World War III, especially with all the intensity that is happening in the Middle East. I know that I will be praying on March 3, as prime minister Benjamin Netanyahu addresses the United States Congress on what is happening in Iran and how it is affecting Israel. Christians in America need to stand in the gap for our nation on that day, that the hearts of our leaders would turn towards God and also towards Israel. The nation who supports and blesses Israel will be blessed.

With thoughts of the return of Jesus, my first instinct is to make sure I am living a life of purity and righteousness before God, that is my personal responsibility. I want to live this life in honor and respect with my husband, walking hand in hand with him in peace as we “press in to the High calling in Christ Jesus”. Next it is my responsibility to train and teach my children to walk closely with God, not just head knowledge but heart knowledge that causes them to have a personal relationship with their Savior. I want to live a life that is an example of Jesus to others, my neighbors, my friends and people I meet.

The world is hungry for what Jesus has, many do not know what that hunger is or where to find it. This is our chance to give them a piece of the puzzle that they have been missing their whole life. Why would I hold back their completion?

My mandate, in the season, is to do all that I can to equip families in our church and wherever around the world God sends my family and I. To give them the tools they need to build strong relationships with their spouse and raise a mighty women and men of God.
If couples do not know how to handle conflicts in their relationship before the tribulation, how in the world are they going to withstand when things get really tough.

Think about families in the Middle East who are having their love ones slaughtered by ISIS, I bet they are not fighting over who left the milk out and who spent the last of the grocery money. This is where it gets real people. We need to know how to communicate with each other, how to have self-control in our thoughts and actions. How to make good decisions. How to honor our spouse and leaders even when we don’t agree 100% percent. Honor is not about agreement it is about respecting a person because of who they are as a son and daughter of God. This list could go on and on which shows the necessity of my mandate.

Our children need us to hold it together and thrive because they are going to carry the torch in their generation. I want them to be prepared to be the army of God who will stand righteous and victorious.
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Declaration over Marriages!!

Praying for marriages today! Declaring PEACE in communications, CLARITY in vision, UNITY in hearts and GRACE to override anything the enemy tries to slip in the cracks. No weapon formed against your marriage will prosper. You are a gift to each other. I am declaring the Love of God to wash over you and strengthen every fiber of your union!! We are in this together!! Declaring all assignments from the enemy to bring agitation and strife to leave now. Holy Spirit release your love grace and peace and bring every couple into a unity like they have ever known. AMEN!!

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Danny Silk is the Family Pastor at Bethel Church in Redding, CA. His series Keeping Your Love on has revolutionized our lives.

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Wives, You Are Your Husbands Greatest Gift

The picture attached displays how most husbands view their wives at the end of her busy day. Despite the 10 loads of laundry, 2 loads of dishes, sweeping and picking up, being the worlds fastest taxi mom to 2 or 3 different schools, running a business from home, working full/part time or taking care of an infant at home – YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DESERVE A BREAK! Some fake a headache or others hardly acknowledge their husband until the last quick goodnight kiss, after all the kids have been tucked in bed. So is the life of today’s busy housewife/mother.

The every day tasks may be daunting and you may feel as though you never accomplish everything in one day, but did you know your husband is craving your attention. He want to feel as though you are just as in love with him as the first months you were together. He himself has most likely had a very stressful day, all be it, in a different way. But he needs a wife. Not just someone who cooks and cleans but a friend. Not to only feel like a sounding board for all the problems of your day, fights the kids had and how much your body hurts. He. Needs . A . Friend. A friend who listens to him, but most of all a wife who wants to spend time in his arms even under the covers.

As a wife and mother of 3 who also runs a business from my home, I understand the overwhelming feelings that come with this. I need to make sure make sure every day that I take time to focus on my husband, have compassion for him and his day, while at the same time, ready to turn up the heat and light the candles in the bedroom. We may think we look and feel a used up dish towel, but in our husbands eyes we are the hot little mama he fell in love with. The difference is our mindset and desire to be with him as he wants to be with us. It does take effort to shut out the stresses of the day, believe me I have prayed a prayer to God on a few occasions while being drawn into an embrace that God would throw out every thought from my mind except the love for my husband. The most amazing thing happens in that moment, a desire of fire comes over me like I couldn’t stir up myself. Believe me, I love and am so attracted to my husband, the issue lies with my view of myself. At the end of an overwhelming day It is not him, it is me. LADIES we need to do everything that we can to shake off our cares and tiredness and give our all to our husbands. When we do, he is massively built up and encouraged like you would never know.

YOU ARE YOUR HUSBANDS GREATEST GIFT, You are the one who can keep his passions in the home and not search for that love and acceptance outside. (However, they are the ones responsible for their actions especially when you have done all you can to show love, respect and honor).

This Valentine’s Day, stop looking, waiting and anticipating what your husband is going to do for you. Set your eyes on him 365 days of the year and give your all to him. It will shock you what may happen in return.

Ps. Wives, try taking a shower right before bed. It will do wonders for your sex life!!!!

Proverbs 31:10-31
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her,and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. She finds wool and flaxand busily spins it. She is like a merchant’s ship,bringing her food from afar.

She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her householdand plan the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it;with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong,a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable;her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread,her fingers twisting fiber.

She extends a helping hand to the poorand opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household,for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads.She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.

Her husband is well known at the city gates,where he sits with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garmentsand sashes to sell to the merchants. She is clothed with strength and dignity,and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise,and she gives instructions with kindness.

She carefully watches everything in her householdand suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her.Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done.Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

Here is an excellent article I found this morning along the same subject.
http://www.scissortailsilk.com/2015/02/10/christian-women-and-christian-grey/

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God Said it- I Believe it – That Settles It

My life is held together by God’s promises. There have been so many times in my life where God has spoken so clearly. In those times, I have to make sure I listen because I know I will have a decision to make. I can either take the word or promise He gives me and throw it over my shoulder, or I can stand on His word and believe it with all my heart. So often when I am faced with challenges, I revert back to His words and hold them up to God with Isaiah 55:10-11 in my mind and say, ” God YOU SAID….”. As I do this, a sense of determination comes over me to hold on to His word and promises like it is oxygen.

What do you think God’s response is?? I believe it is pride in His daughter standing on His word and realizing she is going to make it. He showers down strength, love, hope and peace. I am then energized and refocused on the solution and the answer to what I am crying out for. When we stand in a place of prayer declaring what God is already in the process of doing, we are pulling our future into our present. We don’t have to see the tangible answer in front of us, we need to see the promise God has made and hold Him to HIS word that what He has said He will do. As we align our hope to our faith it propels us into our destiny faster than if we just sit and wait for it to happen.

My husband spoke to the Fathers on Father’s Day last year at Destiny Christian Fellowship. It was a powerful word talking about us having to give God something for Him to work with. Here is the link to his message: We are made in His Awesome Image.
https://pogoplug.com/s/n4mxBv6wRjA/

I know without a doubt that my husband and I would not be in the place we are in, especially with a growing and thriving business if we did not take a hold of God’s promises and declare them in the hard times. We give Him all the glory for the things He has done, what He is doing and what He will do!!

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